Most people start out with lots of friends when they are younger. It seems that when we are younger the more friends we have the more important we feel. It isn’t until we are usually much older that we realize that it is better to have a few or more importantly one or two really good friends than an entourage. Having a couple of friends that we know will be there for the good times and more importantly the bad times is more meaningful.
If you think about it everyone wants to be there for the good times and the parties but when things go south who can you depend on?
My Grandmother told me something years ago that I still hold onto today. She told me that just as many “good” friends as you have praying for you and your well being that there are just as many and in some cases more “good” friends praying for your downfall. Once I sat back and thought about what she was saying it really did make sense. I am not a jealous person by nature but I have run across a few people in my lifetime that are.
I also saw this first hand with my daughter and her clique from high school. Allison was the one who always had the concert tickets and went on trips and it was nothing for us to get tickets for her whole crew or take one or two on trips with us. As this pattern progressed I would sometimes sit back in the shadows and watch the girls and pick up on facial expressions and mannerisms when they thought no one was watching. The evening after high school graduation one of these “friends” even went so far as to tell her that she really didn’t like her and she never had, she was just in it for the “perks” and now that they were going to different colleges she had no reason to pretend anymore. Talk about a bold move!
There are countless reasons why some people are not designed to complete your journey with you. Again, some are just in it for the perks and with others you just simply drift apart. Lift happens and people change so it is a given that everyone that starts a journey with you will not end that journey with you.
I believe that people are put into our lives for specific reasons and once that reason or season is over as I like to call it then it’s time for both parties to move on. There is nothing wrong with this. We all change and with that change hopefully comes growth. Embrace the changes as well as the growth and move forward with the next season of your life.
